Appreciate and respect who you’re with. Never let them go a day without knowing they are wanted, needed, and loved. Pour into their hearts and souls as often as possible, and be their biggest support system and best friend. If you have a man who works very hard, make sure to tell him how grateful you are for all he does for the family and for your future. I’m a woman that believes in taking care of her guy—cooking from scratch, cleaning with the music on and a smile on my face, errands and laundry always handled, the bills paid on or ahead of time so your guy never has to deal with the mundane things, weekly budget meetings together and monthly goal meetings to build your best empire as you become one, waking up before him to pack his lunch at 4am and then waking him up for work with sweetness and love, home-cooked meals ready when he comes home from work, and endless hugs and kisses that make him want to rush home. Adventures together. Date nights. Doing everything with him to experience and be a part of the things he enjoys (hobbies, events, getaways, etc.). Life together in every way possible and the strongest, closest, most affectionate, faithful, and genuine relationship you can build.
I realize not everyone feels this way, and there is absolutely nothing wrong with career women. It is admirable and very hard work. I know, I’ve worked since I was 14-years-old and have never had anyone take care of me. I’ve also been a single mother for over 11-years and worked very hard outside the home. Since I was a little girl of 7-years-old all I have dreamed of was being a housewife and a mother. I have the second part and I treasure it with everything I am…the first part I have never experienced but still long for every single day. This isn’t to make anyone else feel wrong or less-than. These are my OWN feelings and desires and my own life’s calling that I’ve felt on my soul all of my life. And when your soul never experiences what you feel you were designed for, there is an aching that nothing can cure. Being a stay-at-home wife and mother is not for everyone, but it’s definitely for me!
I should have been born in the 1800’s or something, because I would give anything to have the chance to be a stay-at-home wife/mother and make my family the highest priority (well, in all honesty I would love to work part-time so I can contribute to the finances and lighten the burden on my guy, but still have the needed time to make home life the priority). To dote over my other half, be involved in all school events for the kiddos, make sure my husband has to worry about NOTHING except going to work and coming home, because all else would be handled and kept in tip-top shape. Call me a traditionalist or old school…but I feel being able to be the caretaker of the house, be involved in your children’s lives as much as possible, and being the woman of the home to take the burden and stress off of the man is very important.
If you have that blessing, PLEASE, PLEASE don’t take it for granted. Treat your guy like a king and make sure he knows you freely take care of everything (including him) because you are grateful to have the chance to live a life of home and family and love. Don’t waste it. Don’t complain. Don’t take it for granted. Don’t take advantage of the privilege. Remember how immensely blessed you are, and that some of us would give anything for such an opportunity. We were created to be the nurturers. We were created to stand behind our guy and make him feel like there’s nothing in the world he can’t do with his gal behind him and by his side. We were created to lift him up and appreciate and respect him, because being a better woman for him makes him a better man for us. Whether you stay at home, want to, or don’t—the bottom line is that if you have a good man by your side that would walk through fire with you, do anything for you, treats you like a queen and helps your dreams to come true (and wants to equally be a part of them), count your blessings and thank the Lord above for the person He sent to you—and remind who you are with that they are the only one you would ever choose, no matter what!